Having four kiddos on the Autism Spectrum can make life challenging. However with the supports in place in our home, my kiddos are truly learning balance and how to have FUN! When I am taking the kids out and about, my oldest tunes into the pop music station and seemingly every 20 minutes we are hearing this Summer’s hit song “Despacito.” Everyone starts singing and boogying in the car. At that time I am truly grateful for three things:
1) My kiddos have no idea of the translation of the lyrics to the song.
2) We are ALL tone deaf! Yikes… No judgement here… 🙂
3) I am witnessing this spectacular event!
Additionally, we also have “Dance Parties” at home where we jam to songs like the current summer hit, “Despacito”; having some small intermittent moments of fun and pure hilarity! This has been quite the evolution…
Some things I keep in mind when supporting my kiddos:
- Individuality: They are each on different parts of the spectrum. Happiness is defined differently for each. So there is no comparison made. I encourage each child to be themselves and find comfort and contentment in their individuality. To love who they are!
- Tolerance: Sometimes a child may be having a bad day. So he then expects the world to stop and everyone else in the family to be droopy and in the doldrums. It’s difficult and a tall task helping the other kiddos keep their sibling’s feelings in perspective. Have empathy for their sibling while remaining focused on their goals, tasks and state of mind for the day. Not perseverate and become so drawn into that situation that the feelings permeate. We work hard as a family with Autism not to allow the crossover behaviors.
- Happiness: Sometimes kiddos with Autism and ADHD are rigid and do not transition well. So an impromptu “dance party” may not sit well with them. I constantly weave fun into various aspects of their day or planned activities.